Have a guy ever wonder what is lust?

“Lust is a violation of my personhood. I am more than a prize to be won, a product to be used, or anyone’s property to be brought. Lust ignores my worth as an intelligent individual and reduces me to an object of desire.”

I guess being a girl in this carnal world is not easy. We’re surrounded by media that depicts women as sexual objects, and their femininity is often either condemned by feminists or sexualised to the extent that it’s awkward for them to look at themselves as beautiful creations of God.

I believe it’s degrading to be considered by men to be nothing more than a body for male sexual gratification, and it’s demoralising to look around and recognise that many women exist who buy into this stereotype, and so validate the assumption that women are to be regarded as sexual beings.

I don’t know but I think it’s pretty scary to think that she may be giving herself to a man in marriage someday, whereby he is surrounded by such a moral laxity that he will struggle to be faithful to her. Jesus said that looking at a woman lustfully is the same as adultery; yet in today’s society, it seems acceptable to look as long as you don’t touch. For her to know that men who surround her at college are technically guilty of “adultery” against their future wives is so discouraging. It’s difficult for her to trust when she look around and see so many men engaged in such sexual sin.

It’s obvious that the context can’t change; our society is our society, and it has been been this way since time began. So something within the man must change. All Men must change!

When a girl is being looked up and down, it may seems pleasant at first as she may feel like she has power - like she has something that a guy wants - like she’s worth something.

However, I must get this message across to fellow brothers. The feelings of being lusted at doesn’t erase the feelings of disgust and shame that accompanied them. Girls are not created to be “checked out” by men lustfully. Lust is definitely not the kind of attention girls long for. Girls, I believe long to be treasured for who they are - not what they look like. The problem is that they rarely get attention for that from the world. We get attention for our bodies. So girls dress in ways that hurt men and make them struggle, and girls may get the attention they crave. Yet, I know and I know, it’s not the kind of attention they really desire. But it’s all they get, so they lie to themselves and accept it. Is it really a matter of getting used to it? I seriously doubt so.

I wish guys knew that girls need affirmation and assurance. Guys need to ensure that girls feel loved and cared for. Girls are relational people., relationships with just girls do not fulfill them. They need affirmation from guys as well. They need to feel protected, cared for, and treasured. a good deal of this should come from fathers and brothers., granted. However, being children of God, we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. This noble responsibility now falls on guys. Just as girls are charged with being sisters to guys, and protecting their eyes, guys must be willing to accept the responsibility to protect their sisters’ hearts.

Even if we act as if we are tough and don’t need love, we do. We act as if we don’t need anyone or can handle things on our own. That is completely untrue. We need friends. More often than not, we need brothers and sisters in Christ. Girls need guys to affirm them and show them that they are worth something as a responsible individuals and not as an object of desire. A lot of times, girls act the way they they do because they don’t get the affirmation from men. They aren’t loved by fellow male counterparts . . . They turn to dressing immodestly and behaving shamelessly because they want affirmation from men.

Instead if we guys were to actually treat their female counterparts as sisters instead of possibilities, things will be very different. What exactly do I mean? Well think of how a brother treats a sister - he loves her for who she is - her personality, her character, her sense of humour, her gifts, her weaknesses - not her body! He does things for her. He tells her that she’s special because God made her that way. He treats her like a woman. He takes care of her gently when she’s weak. He encourages her to pursue her passions and dreams. He loves her - can hug her - without lusting after her. This is what we need from guys; especially Christian brothers.

This problem of lust ~ ~ ~

Look here - I have either got to overcome the world, or the world is going to overcome me. I have either got to conquer sin in me - or sin about me - and get it under my feet, or it is going to conquer me. We have this to encourage us: we are assured of victory at the end. We are promised a glorious triumph.

My Lord Jesus Christ took all our sins upon Himself and shed his precious blood on the cross for all mankind on the day of calvary. He did this to restore the righteous relationship that men once shared with God. He took the initiative to rescue us from this fallen world. Bring them all - past regrets, disappointments, failures, mistakes, etc - to the cross of calvary. The righteousness of God is all yours. If and only you are willing to take that first step towards Christ. Christ took the initiative and He’s waiting for you. Go to Him.

Jesus Christ is my Lord and my friend. is He the Lord of your life as well?

To Bernard’s future wife:
Hi. My precious angel. I love you even though I don’t know who you are. I’ve loved you for a long time, and there is a great big place in my heart that is reserved especially for you. I pray for you almost everyday, and I have for years and years. I often wondered where you are and what you’re doing as I go through this season without you. I’m looking forward so much to sharing all the days that the Lord will give us together. Unless the Lord should rapture us both home first, I hope we are able to spend many years together and grow very old caught in each other’s loving gaze.

Sweetheart, I look forward to falling in love with you and starting my life with you more than anything else on earth, but I would be wrong to say that I can’t wait. I can wait, by the grace of God ad the blessing of His fellowship. He is my rock and my fortress, and I’ll never expect you to meet the needs in my life that only He can fill. It’s because I love Him and I love you so much that I will wait. I have much growing to do before our Father would entrust me with his precious daughter. I am determined to be the very best husband possible, and I’m delighted to tell you that God is daily breaking me and humbling me and molding me to become that husband who is worthy of your love. I’m not going to give any other woman any thing that belongs to you: of my body or my heart.

For the mistakes that I’ve made and will make, I’m sorry, and I beg your forgiveness. But I make no excuses for my sins and I make every provision not to sin, by God’s grace and power I will be faithful to you. Than you for your faithfulness to me.

I absolutely know already you’re more precious than I could ever deserve, and I can only thank my God for you. I know you’ll be far from perfect, but our gracious Lord will allow me to see you that way, and the rest of the time Ill choose to think that way. I plan on loving you just the way Christ loved the church: sacrificially, unconditionally and completely. I’m going to let you be who you are and I’m not going to stop you from becoming the woman God is making you.

I love you so much, and I look forward with all of my heart to meeting you. Until then, God keep you in the name of the Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ, and forevermore afterward.